Share on Pinterest I’ve always considered myself to be firmly in the “fed is best” category. And that she would be fed another mother’s milk through her feeding tube if I didn’t provide my own breast milk for her. And pumped and pumped and pumped. Breast milk, in my mind, became my connection to her. I realized, for the first time, what all of the moms who had talked about how hard it was to not be able to breastfeed had felt like.